newly-orphaned

2007-07-22T18:51:00.001-07:00

Why am I always so afraid?

2007-06-03T07:58:00.000-07:00

I went out to California in Feb of this year to meet my biological siblings for the first time. The visit went well and phone calls later went find as well. Then the lull! My brother Greg dropped out of sight, phone tag insued and there were vague messages that he had been sick. He wasn't returning my phone calls, what was up!

As usual I went into denial for awhile and tried to ignore the situation. At times it would cross my mind and the fear would hit. Had I said something? Had I done something? Well I called him from the car yesterday on my way down to visit my kids and grandson and he answered the phone! Guess they are having to move. He's having problems with his kids. Why do I always think its me? Why am I still so afraid of rejection?

Mark the Date!

2007-06-02T19:44:00.001-07:00

I'm gonna be there and I hope that you will too!

The face they don't want you to see!

2007-06-02T19:00:00.000-07:00

Once more adoption makes everyone happy

An Adoptee's Video

2007-06-02T18:47:00.000-07:00

Found this on You Tube

I've been busy!

2007-05-15T18:54:00.000-07:00

Hi All!

Thanks for all the wonderful comments! I've been over on 360 posting stuff on other subjects! Dropped in tonight and read some of the new posts recommended by Theresa. They sure hit home!

My goof ball sister called again the other night. She needed 30.00 to be able to leave her boyfriend, Huh? I just told her I couldn't because Hubbies out of work. She said she'd call me and let me know where she is! Thirty dollars, isn't that about the price of a quarter gram of dope? Sure not enough to move on! Oh well!

Meanwhile bio big bro has dropped out of sight! What'd I do? I think I'm a little pissed about it! I sent his wife a birthday card and have not heard anything back. While I'm not happy with the situation I do wonder if maybe just meeting them and seeing them once was enough. I guess time will tell.

Seems like I've been reading quite a few blogs from adoptee's who's mothers don't want to have anything to do with them. That's our greatest fear isn't it? I never got the chance to be rejected a second time because she was gone by the time I found her. I wonder some times still, would she have liked me? Would we have gotten along? Have I been spared additional pain by her death and don't know it?

Mother's Day came and went with the usual degree of depression. The kids both called but late enough in the day for me to believe that they weren't going to! While riding in our truck I wallowed in self pity that I never even got to say Happy Mother's day to my mother. The tears came.

How I wish there was a grave to visit! My mother's ashes are reported to be in some bikers attic in Sacramento, Ca. He's holding them ransom until my sister pays him the money she owes him! I would gladly go see this guy and fork over some cash but she won't cough up a name or address! I worry about what happens to them if something happens to my sister. I guess her grave is in my heart! This is the kind of stuff I don't mention on 360!

My sister called

2007-05-01T19:23:00.000-07:00

When I searched and found my family, what I found is a half brother and a half sister. My half sister was driving the car when my mother was killed. She was strung out of her mind on pills. She called tonight, strung out as she usually is. She talks so fast I can't understand what she says about half the time. She's big into conspiracy theories!

My mother was in AA. She had 7 years of sobriety when she died. My sister has located her sponsor. Guess what? She won't give me the name or number of this woman! Lord knows I know how to search and I've got some connections in AA so I can find her on my own probably with minimal effort but it just makes me mad that Anne won't let me have her number!

If this woman were anyone but my sister I'd have already kicked her out of my life. She used to call in the middle of the night but I put a stop to that and she's honoring my boundaries. She used to call and ask for money but I put a stop to that as well. Now it feels like she's rubbing information in my face. That's probably not the case but it is how it feels. Guess I need to tell her that if she's not going to give me the ladies number then we don't need to talk about THAT anymore! Anyone got any better ideas?

Controversal?

2007-05-01T16:56:00.000-07:00

I've had cause to get nervous over at 360. I spent about 2 weeks posting thoughts, feelings and opinions on my adoption and it seems to have made some people nervous. Then too a friend of mine got one of those threatening notices that she had posted something offensive to some one and was threatned with having her page shut down. The sad thing is she has no idea what she said or did that was wrong!

Today, I had a message from someone I don't know and posted a response which I'm sure will be offensive and I expect to get hit as well. Guess I've decided that I probably need to begin the transition over to this site before I get in trouble and locked out over there. Thanks to Teresa for helping me get back into my page which I was having difficulty logging into!

Hi From Newly

2007-04-11T19:50:00.000-07:00

Well I bounced over here after making a new friend on Yahoo 360 named Theresa. I spend a lot of time on 360 and don't know how much blogging I'll do over here but thought I'd set up my page anyway. I've enjoyed reading a few of you fellow adoptee's posts and share your frustrations.

I petitioned the courts twice to release my adoption file which the judge did after I got a little huffy in the second letter. Then the request was shipped off to the Department of Social Services where they blacked out all the information they could! Hence, I still have no idea who daddy dearest is.

I had the incredible, awesome experience of meeting my 2 half siblings last month and absolute dream come true last month! My advise? Bang away on all the locked doors and NEVER give up!